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Ideas Won’t Keep

Our integrity, our desire to walk our talk, faces the strongest assault when it is not us but the ones we love who have to pay for the consequences of our choices.

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The Aftermath Of A Decision

Buyer’s remorse. Sour grapes. Rationalization. Self-justification. How do we feel after we’ve made a decision that was hard and came with significant consequences ?

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Children and Nature: A Growing Disconnect

This past weekend was a scorcher. It nearly broke some records. Read more »

No Holds Barred Parenting: Part Two

Our third teacher was a soft-spoken jazz guy named Richard, with wide hips. He said he had a two-year-old daughter. At our first meeting, he gave Sophia and me a big lecture about the importance of living in the moment and playing for oneself. … Richard said there were no rules in music, only what felt right, and no one had the right to judge you, and the piano world had been destroyed by commercialism and cut-throat competition. Poor guy – I guess he just didn’t have what it took. … As the eldest daughter of Chinese immigrants, I don’t have time to improvise or make up my own rules. I have a family name to uphold, aging parents to make proud. I like clear goals, and clear ways of measuring success.

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No Holds Barred Parenting

Amy Chua’s book on Chinese parenting “Battle Hymn of The Tiger Mother” is polemic, but unflinching look at one woman’s model of parenting.

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