A few weeks back, I came across an article, published in the reputed magazine, The Atlantic, titled “The Case Against Breast-Feeding”. The blurb read:
“In certain overachieving circles, breast-feeding is no longer a choice—it’s a no-exceptions requirement, the ultimate badge of responsible parenting. Yet the actual health benefits of breast-feeding are surprisingly thin, far thinner than most popular literature indicates. Is breast-feeding right for every family? Or is it this generation’s vacuum cleaner—an instrument of misery that mostly just keeps women down?”
We struggled to breast-feed Maya. Shanthala never produced enough to satisfy Maya’s needs and so right off the bat, we used formula to supplement her nutrition. The hospital provided lactation consultants (people back home raised eyebrows at such terms) who tried to help us with breast-feeding. The advice began with different holding techniques to ensure that Maya latched properly. They followed it up with supplements to help her latch better, supplements such as nipple shields and supplemental nutrition system. That still didn’t produce enough milk for Maya. Shanthala and I began to lose even more sleep during those initial days as feeding her took a lot longer than usual.
After we returned home, we visited another lactation consultant, at a maternity center nearby. This lactation consultant suggested that Shanthala pump milk and we feed Maya through a bottle for a few days to give Shanthala some rest while continuing to keep the supply-demand chain of breast milk alive. The consultant hoped that giving Shanthala time to rest would allow her to pump more often. We rented a pumping machine from the center and purchased all the necessary accessories that go with it. To avoid what is called nipple confusion, we tried finding the right bottle with the right nipple so that Maya wouldn’t get too attached to the easier flow of milk from a bottle. In the beginning, I even tried drip-feeding her to avoid feeding her through a bottle. The technique consisted of attaching one end of a thin capillary to a bottle with pumped breast milk and taping the other end to my finger. Maya nursed by sucking on my finger. It took over an hour to feed her 3 ounces of milk. I gave up after the first two attempts.
Familiar with Indian herbal medicine as well as their Western equivalents to help boost milk production, the lactation consultant recommended that Shanthala try these. And so, Shanthala took these medications, going so far as to import an allopathic medicine from India that had fewer side-effects than the local variety. After two months of struggle, we gave up and switched to feeding Maya only formula, a decision that caused Shanthala much heart-ache.
One of the advantages as an immigrant is the potential to view with a less myopic eye, the practices of two different cultures, to discern ingrained ritual from a more scientific practice. So, when it came to breast-feeding and caring for the baby, we had chosen to eschew most of the Western practices in favor of what we practiced back in India. To be fair, we also eschewed some practices from India such as worrying about “spoiling” a week old infant by responding quickly to her cries or allowing her to cry it out a little.
Starting around the end of WWII and going on till about the late 70s, breastfeeding was considered second class, of a lower quality, used by those who couldn’t afford the superior, “scientifically” formulated infant formula. Breastfeeding in public was considered offensive, an indecent exposure. Just a few months back, San Jose Mercury News published a story about people protesting against Facebook’s decision to remove breastfeeding pictures on grounds that they were obscene. Till recently, no legal protection existed for a woman who wanted to breastfeed in public. If you cannot breastfeed in public, your range and excursions are severely limited. Even today, only 23 states allow breastfeeding in the workplace and seven states have no laws that protect a woman from breastfeeding in public. Still, breastfeeding has been gaining the upper hand starting in the 80s and according to a CDC survey report published last year, 77% of new mothers now breastfeed.
Safety concerns further add to formula’s disadvantages. In the 70s, many infants died due to lack of proper hygiene in the water and bottles for feeding the formula. The poor, unable to afford formula and weaned off breast milk by marketing and free samples, water down the formula as they cannot afford it. Last year, six infants died and 300,000 suffered from tainted milk formula in China. Even in the US, trace quantities of melamine were detected in the formulas sold here. Food safety, in general, has become a major concern. So much so, that the popular science magazine, Discover, considered it a top twenty story of 2008.
And so here was an article, gaining popularity (or notoriety, depending on your point of view) in the blogosphere and elsewhere that questioned the value of breastfeeding. I came across the article via the blog, Frontal Cortex, which I read daily. The article raises some good points about inconclusive studies from which more conclusive dogma is crystallized by the popular media and activists of all garbs. But to talk of “formula” as if it was a constant, unchanging thing seemed silly. Infant formula is constantly revised. For example, the formula manufacturers recently added DHA/ARA, a compound found in breast milk that helps in neural development. With big money behind them, infant formula manufacturers have the clout to seed doubt into the medical literature about the superiority of breastmilk, doubts that will take many years to either prove or discard.
The more I read, the more I realized that this was not an article that was about the science of breast milk or breast-feeding. The heart of the article is right at the start:
“I dutifully breast-fed each of my first two children for the full year that the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends. I have experienced what the Babytalk story calls breast-feeding-induced “maternal nirvana.” This time around, nirvana did not describe my state of mind; I was launching a new Web site and I had two other children to care for, and a husband I would occasionally like to talk to. Being stuck at home breast-feeding as he walked out the door for work just made me unreasonably furious, at him and everyone else.”
This was a cry against what seemed another step in the ladder to impossibly high standards set on women by societies around the world. I gained a more nuanced perspective about this reading the first two chapters of Sarah Blaffer Hrdy’s “Mother Nature: A History of Mothers, Infants, and Natural Selection”. The two chapters are titled “Motherhood as a Minefield” and “A New View of Mothers”. I read about a male-dominated scientific establishment that tried hard to use science to push rather Victorian views of women (selfless mothers, possessed of a natural maternal instinct, stay-at-home to care for infants etc. etc.), substituting dogma for data.
She writes: “… (in 1770), the French physician Jean-Emmanuel Gilbert was convinced that women should follow nature’s eternal and unchanging precepts by nursing each child they bore. Gilbert and others like him looked to the animals not to make unbiased empirical observations but to use nature to confirm their own and society’s preconceptions about how humans should behave.” In the 1860s, Herbert Spencer, who coined the phrase “survival of the fittest” and was a popularizer of the theory of evolution, believed that the supreme function of women was to rear children and so they were less evolved than men. Even Darwin convinced himself that men were superior to women in all spheres except child rearing. Dr. Hrdy writes: “It did not occur to his (Darwin’s) Victorian imagination – as it would immediately occur to a !Kung forager – just how resourceful a woman would have to be to keep children alive and survive herself.“
Dr. Hrdy writes that this Victorian vision has followed us into the modern age and into the study of evolutionary psychology and other subjects of modern biology. She writes how all this clashed with feminism: “Attachment theory rubbed precisely the spot where evolutionary acid burns deepest into feminist sensibilities. … The way many feminists saw it, an infant “attached” meant a mother enchained. … One obvious way for these feminists to avoid this painful and irreconciliable dilemma was to deny that biology is relevant to human affairs or even deny that infants have innate needs for highly personalized care.“
Science, the only known method whose practice can alter theories to fit the data (rather than the other way around as practiced by every other form of knowledge acquisition such as religions and “isms” of various nature), works slowly, far too slowly for this fast-paced world requiring authoritative answers yesterday rather than tentative stabs a month from now. Scientists like Dr. Hrdy and others have begun making forays into this dogma and raising awareness. But for many feminists, breastfeeding can seem like just another Victorian link in the chain binding a woman at home, while her husband can invest far less and feel neither socially ostracized nor less of a parent.
This is then, the rather strange brand of feminism that I find in America. Women trying to be more like men. Equality that comes from being more like the other, rather than allowing for and fighting for diversity. And children are a casualty in this war. In Ann Hulbert’s book “Raising America”, Margaret Mead is quoted as saying that experts opinions on child-rearing: “throw light on the explicit and changing ideals of the adult culture and only to a very limited degree on the practice to which living children are subjected”.
Shanthala, wise as ever, pointed out another important problem with the breastfeeding article. Yes, it is unquestionably hard for a woman to raise a child. In a nuclear family. So, rather than talk about the ill effects of nuclear family, we chose to ravage breastfeeding. We accept practices such as Ferberization as good for the infants with nary a thought to the infant’s view of the matter. Sarah Blaffer Hrdy opines similarly, as I’ve written earlier. We need more allomothers in raising children, not just a mother.
Update: BBC is carrying the same story today.

